1. Keep Things Honest
We’ve all heard that honesty is the best policy. It’s especially true when you’re in a long distance relationship. Be honest about your intentions, your feelings, your future aspirations, and everything else in between. You not only want to be honest with your significant other, but also with yourself.
2. Learn Each Other’s Love Language
Author Gary Chapman wrote The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. The book details the 5 different ways people love differently. We each “express and experience” love. It’s helpful to learn your significant other’s love language so that you can make them feel loved the way they want to be loved. The Love Languages are Quality Time, Acts of Service, Works of Affirmation, Physical Touch and Receiving Gifts. Which one do you think is yours? You can find out by taking the Love Language Quiz.
3. Never Walk Away From An Argument
Not all arguments are bad. Arguments in my experience, show that both are willing to keep fighting for one another. But, when you do argue, never walk away from your significant other mid fight. And don’t shout, yell, talk over your partner, use harsh language or physical treats. Instead, take a deep breath to help you calm down, which will help you think more clearly and helps your partner understand what you’re trying to say. Always work on fixing whatever the issue is before you go to bed because you never want to go to sleep wondering where you stand with your loved one.
4. Learn to Compromise
You and your partner are two different people. You each have different likes and ways of doing things. So it’s only natural that you bump heads when it comes to making decisions. The best way to come to an agreement is to compromise.
5. Respect One Another
Respect plays a big role in every relationship. You need to respect your relationship, respect your partner and most importantly, respect yourself.
6. Appreciate Each Other
Appreciate the little things. When you’re far apart from each other, it’s hard to show how much you appreciate your partner, but there are different ways to let them know. For example, sending them a text thanking them for dealing with the distance. Or a dropping a postcard in the mail with a note of appreciation. Even calling them before bed to let them know you are thinking of them.
I personally love using TouchNote to send postcards on special dates or just because. In a world filled with technology, it’s always nice to go old school and send something in the mail.
7. Most importantly, Trust & Love Each Other
When it comes to relationships, a lot of people have a hard time trusting due to past traumas. And in a LDR the lack of trust multiplies because of the distance. You have the choice to trust your partner and love them unconditionally. If the trust isn’t there, then it makes being in a LDR very difficult for both. One of you will always wonder about the other and the other will always feel like they have to tiptoe around everything they do because they’ll be afraid of losing the trust.
These are just a few ways I believe you can build a lasting long distance relationship. Every couple is different and has different situations going on in their lives. If you have any tips on how to build a lasting relationship, please feel free to message us or write it down in the comments. We look forward to your feedback!