Ari and Jia
San Francisco, California (Ari) and Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Jia)
How did you two meet?
We met while I (Ari) was on a solo trip traveling throughout Southeast Asia. We matched on Tinder and spent the whole day texting before meeting up in person.
Who made the first move?
Tell us about your first date.
We had spent the whole day texting back and forth after matching on Tinder so I asked Jia if she wanted to join me for a rock climbing session. Coincidentally, she worked in the building right next to the rock climbing gym and was excited that I was in the neighborhood but she politely declined. She asked if I would like to grab a drink and chat instead.
We instantly hit it off that night we met at the bar. We had such a great time together that we spent over three hours talking and the bartender had to kick us out because they were closing. When I got back to my hotel Jia texted to ask if I settled in okay and we’ve been talking everyday since.
How long have you been together?
What has been one major challenge in your relationship?
Having enough time off from work to be together.
How do you settle disagreements?
We always work through them by communicating our points. We let the other person talk without interruption while we actively listen. And we go over a resolution in our discussion so we know how things can be better next time around.
If you are from two different cultures, how do you deal with the cultural differences?
Luckily, we don’t have to deal with many cultural differences. Even though we live in different countries, we’ve both grown up with the same culture and values.
Any memorable trips together?
Our most recent trip to Vietnam. We waited a whole year to go to Vietnam and we finally went over Christmas holiday. This trip was extra special because it was our first time spending Christmas together and we got engaged.
When and how do you plan to close the distance?
Our plan is for Jia to move to San Francisco around December 2020. We have to wait for our K1 Fiancée visa to be approved first. Once that’s approved, then Jia will move in with me and we’ll build our lives together in the US.
Any words of advice for other LDR Couples?
Enjoy every step in the LDR process and appreciate the experience because working through the distance is a hurdle that will make the relationship stronger.