Gisselle & Mathias
Gisselle lives in Spain with daughter Kattie
Mathias lives in Germany
How did you two meet?
We met on a dating page. We talked about why we were both single and Giselle said she had a daughter, which made dating a little difficult because it’s hard to trust someone when you have a child. Mathias made it clear he would want to meet her too.
Who made the first move?
Mathias made the first move by messaging Gisselle on the dating page.
Tell us about your first date.
It was not a first date, rather it was our first meeting. We had talked in WhatsApp for 3 months, and since we didn't know each other in person, we decided to make a deal. Mathias agreed that if he liked me, he would kiss me, if not he would just shake my hand and we’d remain friends.
When I arrived at the airport and saw Mathias for the first time, he made a face of displeasure and when he approached me he kissed me, as if we had known each other for years.
Since then, we’ve become a team of 3 along with our daughter Kattie.
How long have you been together?
We have been together for 2.5 years
What has been one major challenge in your relationship?
We briefly broke up in March of 2018 due to disagreements raised from not being together in the same place. We love each other very much and decided that even though it is difficult to be apart, we would rather be miles away than not together at all. Being apart has and will continue to be our greatest challenge until we close the distance.
How do you settle disagreements?
In the beginning of our relationship, we fought a lot. After getting back together we decided to communicate more and explain how we feel. Even when we are angry with each other we never forget to say that we love each other and that it’s just a stupid fight that we can fix by communicating.
If you are from two different cultures, how do you deal with the cultural differences?
We are from two different cultures, but we both want to learn from each other. I want to learn about his culture & customs as well as his past and everything about him. and he wants the same. We’ve managed to little by little learn each other’s languages and traditions.
Any memorable trips together?
We were traveling from Spain to Germany by car. It was an 18 hour journey because Gisselle could not catch a plane. We were on the highway in the middle of France, when the motor of the car stopped working. It didn’t take long before the car was fixed, but it made for a memorable experience together.
When and how do you plan to close the distance?
We are planning to close the distance next year. We have to make a final decision on who will be the one moving. Either Mathias to Spain to join me and Kattie or Kattie and I move to Germany to join Mathias. Stay tuned!
Any words of advice for other LDR Couples?
Being in a LDR is a very difficult road. It can be very frustrating, and there are days that you wake up and you have no idea how you will make this possible. You start to wonder if you will really be together soon? Or if it's just a fantasy and not being realistic about what’s to come. We have read that relationships are 50/50, but it is not like that, there are days that I wake up and I do not even have 10% strength to continue, but Mathias gives me not just the 50%, he offers 90% that I need to be sure of this relationship. Knowing he has my back calms me down when anxiety sets in and doesn't let me sleep. Other nights when I can’t sleep because he isn’t by my side he will stay on the phone until I am able to fall asleep. You have to learn to give a little more when your partner can’t. And you have to learn to accept the help too.
Another thing that helps is surrounding yourself with people who believe in love in the same way as you. People who won’t judge you or make you doubt yourself and your relationship. Find people who love and understand you and will be a support system. Talk to people in similar situations, those who know your struggles will be the best as keeping you sane and calm. But also communicate with your loved one. Your partner is the only one in the world who can understand what you’re going through.
There is no person in this world with whom I want to spend my life with more than Mathias. And although we do not have many answers right now, I know that we will laugh at this moment when we finally are together. And it doesn’t matter when that will be because I have a life to wait for him.