Jacky & Vincent
Now: Jacky - Tucson, AZ & Vincent - Phoenix, AZ
Before: Jacky - Tucson, AZ & Vincent - Chicago, IL
How did you two meet?
The old-fashion way haha - through a mutual friend
Who made the first move?
Tell us about your first date.
I smile and laugh every time I think about our first date, because all though we simply went to dinner (at one of our favorite places to go to in Yuma, Ah-So) and a movie (2 Guns with Denzel Washington and Mark Walhberg). I basically had to bribe Vince to take me on this date since we typically saw each other and only hung out as a group with our other friends. We made a bet and since I won, of course, I told him I wanted him to take me on a real date.
How long have you been together?
6 years this past August
What has been one major challenge in your relationship?
Definitely the time we’ve spent as a long distance relationship; which has been due to the sacrifices we’ve each made as individuals to pursue our career goals. When we started dating we both lived in Yuma and spent the first two years of our relationship in the same city. So it was definitely tough transitioning to long-distance.
How do you settle disagreements?
By talking about it. Over the years, we’ve learned how to best communicate with each other. Early on in our relationship we took to heart the idea of “never going to bed mad at each other” and I think that has helped us settle disagreements and move passed them. Also, rock, paper, scissors! Haha
If you are from two different cultures, how do you deal with the cultural differences?
I come from a very typical Mexican family and Vincent’s family is from Vietnam so there are definitely cultural differences. We’ve always been accepting of each other’s backgrounds and deal with it by learning about each other’s cultures.
Any memorable trips together?
One of my favorite trips was the first time I visited Vince in Chicago (October 2016 when the Cubs were in the World Series), every time I visited we would explore the city together and he made sure to take me to all the great restaurants. But the first time I visited I was able to experience and see what his life was like there. I got to meet his friends and we got to experience the city together the first time. We went to Wrigleyville, visited the Bean, walked through Magnificent Mile and ate all the things Vince loved!
When and how do you plan to close the distance?
We’ve been a long distance couple for 4 years and in that time we’ve been there for each other through our accomplishments and best moments, but also through life’s hardships and surprises. We’ve made some of our favorite memories and have sacrificed so much that it’s hard to believe that this will be our last month as a long distance couple! I will be moving to Phoenix, AZ next month and we move in to our new apartment in early November.
Any words of advice for other LDR Couples?
Be creative, never underestimate how much the little things can mean and never stop supporting each other. When I would go visit Vince before I left I would leave him notes that he could find and read later. Vince would also write and send me letters; although we would never go a day without texting and talking to each other it was a nice surprise to see a letter from him. Lastly, when times got tough because they did I always reminded myself that it was temporary and eventually we’d have the opportunity to wake up next to each other every morning and live the life we wanted.