Ismael & Martha
Phoenix, AZ (Ismael) & San Diego, CA (Martha)
How did you two meet?
Dating App, Bumble
Who made the first move?
Tell us about your first date.
I picked her up from her apartment, we went to downtown Phoenix for dinner. We ate at Hanny’s and then attempted to go to Cobra Arcade bar but it was super packed. So we went to The Duce to dance. Ismael’s best friend, Sean and his girlfriend, Haley met up with us to dance and have some drinks. After the Duce we went back to Sean’s apartment on Mill Ave and continued to drink and hangout.
How long have you been together?
We’ve been dating for about 2 years but have been officially together for 12 months.
What has been one major challenge in your relationship?
One of our biggest challenges as an LDR couple has been coordinating visits that align with both of our schedules. Ismael’s side job as a wedding videographer and Martha’s preparation for board examinations can tie up possible weekend visits.
How do you settle disagreements?
We definitely like to talk about it. At times, talking about it during the heat of the moment does not work best, so we have started to learn to give each other space to calm ourselves down. Once we have had time to relax and calm our nerves we open up the line for discussion again. Make-up sex is always a great way to seal the deal and definitvely get past dissagreements also ;)
If you are from two different cultures, how do you deal with the cultural differences?
We come from similar cultures and backgrounds so it has been easy to integrate with each others family.
Any memorable trips together?
We have so many, but one of our favorites together was probably our weekend road trip to northern Arizona. Martha was on her break between quarters in school so we decided to take a quick road trip. We both are very outdoorsy people and love to hike and explore the world around us. During our trip we did many activities that included hiking and kayaking. We also visited many beautiful locations such as Antelope Canyon, Horseshoe Bend, and Lake Powell. On our way back down to Phoenix we even made a quick stop at the Grand Canyon. It was very memorable because this was still early on in our relationship and we were able to learn that we both share a common love of exploration. It was refreshing to find someone who shares the same interests.
When and how do you plan to close the distance?
In May of 2020 is when Martha graduates with her Doctorates in Optometry, at this point we will find a place to relocate together. She is currently undergoing the idea of doing a 1-year residency which can mean we may have to continue being an LDR couple. This will be determined in early 2020.
Any words of advice for other LDR Couples?
Definitely, Communication. Do this much as possible. We text throughout the day, and keep each other in the loop about our days. We Facetime a few times a week but aside this we have a designated facetime movie night. During this time we facetime each other and start the same movie at the same time and watch it “together”. Intimacy can be a challenge for LDR couples of course, but ensuring that this component is addressed regularly is also important. Sexting or intimate facetime dates can help with this obstacle. Snapchat is a nice app for LDR couples as you can use it to surprise each other with quick snippets (intimate or non) of things throughout your day. We always make sure to sure to say good morning and goodnight to each to remind each other that we are in each other's hearts despite the distance.