Pablo & Sadie
Pablo: Buenos Aires, Argentina
Sadie: Adams, MA USA
How did you two meet?
We met online on InternationalCupid.com
Who made the first move?
We had both just signed up for the website - Sadie had been on it for 1 week while Pablo had been on there for 2 days. Pablo saw Sadie’s profile and sent her a message first.
Tell us about your first date.
Our first “date” was over Skype after we had been talking through WhatsApp for only 3 days. We spent 4 1/2 - 5 hours on Skype that first night talking and it felt like 5 minutes. We clicked right away and felt as if we had known each other forever. It was very strange for both of us, as we had no expectations whatsoever. After that first “Skype date” we knew we wanted to meet in person someday.
We spoke to each other everyday through WhatsApp and made it a point to Skype 2-3 times per week, each time for 3-5 hours (probably more... and it felt like 5 minutes each time!) We started taking in August and planned to meet in March - giving us 7 months to get to know each other. After a few more days of non-stop messaging and Skyping, we moved the date up to January... then after a few more days... we decided on October haha!
Our first official “date” (in person) was on Monday October 14, 2019 after he spent 26 hours traveling from Argentina to USA and missing his original flight on October 10th! We met at the bus stop in Pittsfield, MA - picked up a pizza - brought it home - and had our first date sitting on the floor of Sadie’s living room, eating pizza (she doesn’t have a kitchen table in her apartment haha)! So - our first date consisted of us meeting in person for the first time and also moving in together for 3 months!! We had to be pretty sure of our feelings for each other (and we were) haha!
How long have you been together?
Since our first message online: 2 1/2 months
Since meeting in person: 9 days!
But we both feel like we have known each other forever. It’s honestly insane to write this and realize how little time we have actually known each other and how little time we have actually spent together in person! Wow! What a crazy life!
What has been one major challenge in your relationship?
The money for traveling and all the paperwork that lies ahead of us after these 3 months together. Once Pablo’s trip here is over, he will have to go back to Argentina, and we don’t know exactly when he will be able to come back to the States or when/if Sadie will be able to go to Argentina (which she is planning on doing in March or May) hopefully!
How do you settle disagreements?
We talk and listen to each other. Those two things are so important ... and mixed in with that, is our love. Without that - talking and listening will only get you so far. Love brings respect and when you can acknowledge a disagreement for what it is, and then take the time to talk and listen, while respecting one another - then that’s a wonderful thing. We both believe life is too short to be anything but happy. We make it a conscious decision not to let disagreements boil over or become a waste of time because our time together is so precious as it is. But, we’re both human and we’re both navigating a new and stressful and sometimes scary relationship together, so naturally there will be disagreements along the way - haha!
If you are from two different cultures, how do you deal with the cultural differences?
Our cultural differences are the things we love most about each other, in many ways. We love learning about each other’s cultures, traditions, languages, etc. Pablo is a dual citizen of Italy and Argentina. Sadie is American. They share similar religious beliefs and views on life. Pablo speaks Spanish natively, and also speaks fluent Italian and English. Sadie only speaks native English and has taken Spanish classes throughout her life - but is at a very elementary level (which she’s working on changing)! We celebrate our cultural differences and want to make sure we always keep them a prominent part of our lives together. They make us who we are and we want to see how we can combine them and create our own, unique, traditions together.
Any memorable trips together?
Well - so far - our first trip together has been Pablo coming to the US for 3 months and moving in with Sadie right away. He’s been here for a little over 1 week and we’ve done quite a bit of exploring in Sadie’s town - all of which have been memorable. We have many trips in store over the next few months though... all throughout New England!
When and how do you plan to close the distance?
After Pablo’s 3 months here, he will return to Argentina, hopefully as an engaged man (if he pops the question and Sadie says yes!) haha! Together, we will pursue the K1 Fiancé VISA Process - which is extremely detailed and nerve wracking - knowing your fate as a couple, and your love, is in the hands of total strangers who have the power of deciding whether or not you can be together. If the K1 doesn’t work (which we know it Will work) then we will likely start discussing whether we want to move to Spain or Italy instead. As long as we are together, that’s what’s important.
Any words of advice for other LDR Couples?
Before being a couple, you have to be happy on your own. You have to have things set up (a good job, the ability to travel and save money, the maturity to handle the distance, etc). You also have to trust each other completely and make each other a priority. Time differences can suck, and the distance is obviously challenging - but if you both want to be together bad enough, then nothing can get in your way. It’s not a matter of having or not having time for each other.... it’s a matter of being a priority or not. You need to find the balance of living your own life, maintaining your own life, and incorporating all of this into that as well.